Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” James 1:19. This is supported by research, which emphasizes the importance of effective communication in relationship satisfaction by Markman and co -authors in 2010.
Benefit of effective communication Effective: communication is essential for a healthy love life. Proverbs 18:21: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Gottman (1994) emphasizes positive communication for relationship satisfaction. The first thing Satan does when he wants to destroy a relationship, is to introduce different languages and understandings. Take a look of a bible in the old testament, the story of a happy couple that God left in the Garden of Eden. Satan made them to loose their inheritance in Genesis chapter 3 vs 1-7 by twisting the truth of the punishment into lies. which i believe that there was a missed link of communication. they felt that the death that God was talking about was just physical death but internal separation from God. Satan made them to believe that they will not die a physical death and they believed him. They shows the need for a proper communication in our every day relationship.
How to build effective communication:
Active Listening: Truly listening to your partner without interrupting or planning your response. This shows respect and understanding. Sometimes my husband wants to know why I am asking my question, sometimes he responds defensively, sometimes he responds by trying to interpret my mind, what he thinks is my reason for my question.
Expressing Feelings: Openly sharing your emotions and thoughts. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.” Also be very careful on how you express your feelings. Being aggressive or resentment suppresses feelings without solving problems.
Constructive Feedback: Offering feedback in a positive, non-judgmental manner. Research by Gottman (1994) emphasizes the importance of a 5:1 ratio of positive encounters to negative interactions for a healthy relationship.
Clarifying Needs: Clearly articulating your needs and desires, ensuring there is no room for misinterpretation. Of course! Here is one example: “I feel more connected when we have meaningful conversations. Can we set aside some time each day to talk about our thoughts and feelings?”
Apologizing and Forgiving: Sincerely apologizing for mistakes and being willing to forgive, fostering trust and healing. Gifting is not an apology. Implementing these examples can enhance understanding, reduce conflicts, and build a stronger emotional connection with your partner.